Comments on: I Am Not a Bad Person

By: Sara

Sara — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 23:11:02 +0000

Solidarity, sister.

I too have spoken to myself in a manner in which I would never even DREAM of speaking to another human being–even someone whom I disliked so much that I lay awake at night and mentally rehearsed every wicked tongued comment that I might one day hurl at them given the right circumstances…because I know that when push came to shove I’d never have the heart to be that cruel even if karma dictated that they had it coming.

It’s taken me YEARS to figure out that my obesity isn’t a character flaw or a measure of weakness or a trait to be reviled in my quietest moments. And it’s taking me even longer than that to convince myself that I believe it, to not insult myself with angry and anguished insults, aloud and otherwise. I wonder if I’ll ever be able to silence that mean streak for good…

By: Foodie McBody

Foodie McBody — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 20:42:54 +0000

I can sooooooooooo relate to every word of this. Just substitute my different weight numbers and time frame, but basically it’s the same story. I send compassion to us both.

By: Tony

Tony — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 15:08:47 +0000

great post pamela! I think all of us who have struggled with our weight are way too critical of ourselves (myself included). Learning to not beat yourself up is tough. And yeah, you aren’t bad person. Whoever thinks that is more wrong than Bush was when went into Iraq thinking it was a good idea.

By: theantijared

theantijared — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 22:22:10 +0000

You are FAR from being a bad person!!

You rock! And as you know, it is not hard to get back on the horse!!

By: karyn

karyn — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 18:29:21 +0000

you are not alone, Pamela! I understand about being mean to yourself. You are a sweet person with many many good points that are evident even through a blog - you care about others, you are a hard worker, you are a caring and loving daughter.....just to name a few. I'm glad you are beginning to see that your value has nothing to do with what you look like. karyn’s last blog post..GREAT NEWS!

By: Dawn

Dawn — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:24:20 +0000

Pam, I to find myself not talking kindly to myself sometimes. We really do have to give ourselves the credit for how far we’ve come. I think way to often we focus on where we want to be when really today is what counts the most. Just trying to be happy today. I’m glad you’re here and glad you’re realizing that you are a good person and you deserve the best. *hugs*

By: Roxie

Roxie — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 10:32:37 +0000

Oh, honey.

I, too, have struggled with this negative self-talk. It’s wicked and must be stopped. It does no good because if it did, we’d all be pixie sticks.

It is this very habit, whatever, that I’ve begun to work on changing. I actually tell myself “LEAVE IT” like you would a dog and try to refocus my thoughts onto something else if I start the negative self-talk. I’m working on changing my habits because NO ONE, not me and not YOU, deserve to be talked to in such a way.

Good for you for recognizing this habit. I hope you find a way to treat yourself with loving kindness.

Best,

Roxie

Roxie’s last blog post..When Life Hands You Gators….

By: suzanne

suzanne — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 03:01:30 +0000

Why is it we are always harder on ourselves than we would ever be with anyone else?? We never stop to see just how far we've come!! And Pamela you have come a long way and boy your are an inspiration not only with your weight loss journey but with the support and kindness you show to others!! suzanne’s last blog post..She made it!!