Comments on: My Revelation

By: Skye-Lynn Young

Skye-Lynn Young — Wed, 24 Mar 2010 07:51:05 +0000

All I can say is ((( Hugs Pamela ))), I can so relate to this post! And kudos to you for revealing the truth to yourself! I know how hard this can be. Love ya! .-= Skye-Lynn Young´s last blog ..Revelation =-.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 20:53:08 +0000

Great Post! Dr Phil always says “You wouldn’t care what people thought about you if you knew how often they did” We give other people way too much credit and power. You are right, nobody cares as much about how much you way more than you do.
Thanks for the reminder!

By: Pamela

Pamela — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 13:37:52 +0000

Thanks, Ron! Completed number 9 last night…hopefully tonight’ll be no. 10!

By: Ron

Ron — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 11:30:25 +0000

Congrats on your 8 successful treadmill days! .-= Ron´s last blog ..It's not always about that number on the scale. =-.

By: Diana

Diana — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 10:40:26 +0000

Such a sweet post Pamela. People do change as they get older. Often they become kinder, gentler, more understanding. That sounds like what has happened to your grandma.

As I was reading your post I thought the person that’s the meanest to me about my weight gain is me. Not a day goes by that I don’t condemn myself for having gained back weight. I contantly insult myself, tell myself I’m fat, I’m ugly, even I’m stupid to have gained weight. Honestly, if I was someone else acting like this towards me, I wouldn’t like me.

I’m glad you’ve made peace with your grandma and have forgiven her. She was probably saying things out of concern (I hope), but if you’re like me, I really don’t want to hear and always construe it as an insult.

Of course she missed YOU. You’ll have to see her more often now that you’ve made peace with her….and yourself.
.-= Diana´s last blog ..Remembering Army Private First Class Erin McLyman – A real war hero =-.

By: Pamela

Pamela — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 04:41:17 +0000

Thank you so much, Jaime! You’re so sweet and totally made my day! I’m sorry that you go through some of these emotions with your family, too. I kept my distance for quite a while myself, so I understand. I can’t believe, though, that your grandma said that to you! I don’t blame you at all for backing off a bit. And thank you for giving me a new way to look at the weight I’ve gained…just part of the journey!

By: Jaime

Jaime — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 02:28:03 +0000

I too feel that embaressment with family at times. I really kept my distance at times because of their comments. My 84 yr old gramdma (who is obese BTW) told me in the fall " you are awful heavy for a girl so young" . I was crushed and didn't phone her for a few months. I think our health and weight is a life long journey and your regain was just part of that journey.I for one am so thankful that you are willing to post about these topics . BTW your current picture looks BEAUTIFUL!!! .-= Jaime´s last blog ..Another Saturday =-.

By: Pamela

Pamela — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 02:11:42 +0000

Thank you so much, Rebecca! I even hesitated on posting this, but I’m glad I did if even one person can relate. I really wish I knew why there was so much shame attached to gaining weight. I personally think that a lot of it has to do with the media.

It’s interesting, because I can feel all of those things regarding my own weight gain, but if it was someone else, I couldn’t care less if they regained – they’re still the same person to me. It’s too bad that we can’t show ourselves the same kind of compassion.

And I agree – I would hate to think that love is that petty.

By: Pamela

Pamela — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 02:09:19 +0000

Thank you, Debbie! That corn was a pain in the you-know-what to clean up!

By: Pamela

Pamela — Tue, 23 Mar 2010 02:08:50 +0000

Thank you, Lisa! I wish you the same. It looks like our stats (as far as lbs lost and regained) are extremely similar! 160+ lost for me and over 80 regained! Thanks for leaving a link to your blog. I look forward to checking it out!